bad date bad taste...

Ever had a bad date? Everyone has them in one way or another, so have I. There have been a few dates that hasn't been so stellar. A few years back I went on a few dates with this guy and I liked the guy but I wasn't that in to him sounds weird right. There were issues right from the start that annoyed the hell out of me, one he was way to pushy about things and didn't seem to listen to what I said or maybe he did but choose to ignore it. At that time I had an expensive flat that burned up a lot of cash so I didn't have a lot of money on a daily basis. This guy has a good job wich pays good and he liked to show that he has money which is something that I today don't have a problem with but at that time I had a huge issue with it.

So, it started with him sending me mail through Facebook, how ordinary right. He knows one of my best friends so that's how he found out about me. I accepted to meet him next time he was in Göteborg and we went for a coffe at a place in Haga, a district in central part of Göteborg with a lot of small shops and coffee shops. After that we went for a walk down towards Nordstan the big shopping center and we just talked a lot. The next date were at my birthday which wasn't the plan from the start at all, he got over a few tickets to the swedish version My fair lady and the seats were incredible, sitting on the first row not in the middle but almost, such good seats. he did a great job coming over those tickets. Back to the date, right, so we started off meeting up early at Soho restaurant and wine bar for a glas of wine and then it all went downhill. So the guy payed for the wine which was fine by me because it was my birthday after all. So then I told him that I want to pay for my ticket to the musical and he is like okay but don't worry about it, I said alright but I am going to pay for it no matter what. Then I let it go and on our way down to Göteborgs Operan I said that I'm going to pay for the closet and the drinks in the pause between acts. He was fine with that or that's what I thought. When we were going to pay for our wine in the break he hijacked the bill and paid for it, I got surprised, I got annoyed, I got mad because we agreed on something and then he totally just did the opposite and right then on the spot I decided that this is not going to work out, we where not on the same page and in two totally different places in our lives. So we talked on the phone a few more times and then it all just ran out in the sand. Some people would have loved getting pampered like that but I believe in being equals in a relationship which is built on mutual respect and understanding. It's so important that the foundation in a relationship is based on how you treat each other on so many levels.

Then you have those dates when you realize that you don't have anything in common at all and all you want is that the end of the date comes soon enough, I'm the first to say that I have my flaws and when it gets awkward have a tendency to rabble on to avoid the awkward silence which I can't really stand. Hahahahaha that is so dysfunctional but it doesn't matter when you meet someone who the clicks with and then there is no awkward silence:) Relationships are hard work and the road to one is  exciting.